Comments on: The Man Panel: Nice to Meet You…Marry Me http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/ A Search for Meaning and Connection - Updated Every Monday Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:44:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Mariano Alsberry http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-524 Sun, 28 Feb 2010 07:22:30 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-524 Lots of Good information in your post, I favorited your blog so I can visit again in the future, Cheers

]]> By: Ben http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-24 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 20:48:54 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-24 In a sea of men who have trouble committing, Jeff takes you to dinner at a fancy place (lobster thermidor) and tells you he wants to get married and raise a family. Then he excuses himself and goes to the bathroom. Let’s see: the man’s willing to pay for expensive shell fish, wants to commit, and he actually returns from the bathroom. The guy’s a real loser, right? What difference does it make what Jeff’s last name is? You don’t sound like the kind of woman who’s going to take it anyway. Perhaps what’s going on here is that you’ve reached that point in every single girl’s life when throws up her hands in defeat and gets a cat.

]]> By: Nicole http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-23 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 18:54:07 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-23 I love the part about not being sure you’d recognize him when he comes back from the bathroom!

]]> By: Melissa http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-22 Mon, 26 Jan 2009 18:04:49 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-22 Hey Laura!

Great to see you using your talent! I personally think you should truly get to know someone before you make one of the biggest changes in your life. For me and I’m being honest because i use my life as a testamony to others, thinking I was in love and being in love are not the same. If i had know that one man in my life who said he loved me would turn out to be my abuser (10 yr. survivor of domestic violence) I may not have been so ready to move in with him and have 2 children at 19. I would have known key elements about him and known when that anger point hit and he decised to let it out by slapping me or giving me a black eye. If i had taken the time to have more respect for who i was i would have know. I think if someone you meet or are in a realtionship with does not truly know you or what you stand for, and have no intension on wanting to know, do him a favor, pay the check yourself and leave! When you search your life for tru love you only end up with an unfinished fairytail.

When you take the time to find some-one who is the apple to your apple pie then you have struck gold. It won’t always be easy but you will be able to do it together,(married 11 yrs. now) and lean on one another when the whole world is at odds you will know who is in your corner beside you (not behinde you or infront of you) going through it with you and helping to figure out how to fix it or how to pick up the pieces and go on.

Love you Laura! keep writing. :o )

]]> By: Paul http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-21 Mon, 26 Jan 2009 03:32:29 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-21 Actually, I’m going to take Jeff’s side on this one.

Jeff wasn’t asking you to marry him, for god’s sakes. He was just trying to weed out incompatibles. Isn’t that obvious?

Sure it’s awkward, and unromantic as well. But it still beats the alternative: squandering your heart, your energy, and your time on people who will never bring you long-term happiness. So I say, grin and let it slide.

I agree that it’s possible to overdo the “checklist” approach. But marriage and kids are two things that are easily defined, and that a couple really need to agree on.

Oh and by the way Laura — so *ARE* you hoping to get married and / or have kids?

]]> By: Christopher http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-20 Mon, 26 Jan 2009 03:26:52 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-20 Hmmmm.
It often all depends on where you are in your life, be it male or female. If you have a biological clock ticking loudly in your head, then maybe you don’t want to waste too much time? Some of us don’t want to hear the question of marraige at all! It certainly doesn’t mean much, compared to say… 20 or 30 years ago. So why rush into it? What are you rushing into?

Well composed… and very interesting debates might ensue!

]]> By: Carol http://tartandsoul.com/2009/01/25/the-man-panel-nice-to-meet-you%e2%80%a6marry-me/#comment-18 Sun, 25 Jan 2009 17:26:14 +0000 http://tartandsoul.wordpress.com/?p=74#comment-18 Nice Laura! Well said! I ‘ve been on dates like this where the guy wants to fit me into his open slot – usually my hips won’t fit in the space. I’ve also played the role of the ‘eager beaver’ idiot who divulges too much and scares men away after two dates. My moods and behavior on this issue fluctuate, daily, but reading your piece reminds me to chill, relax, and be smarter about dating. :-)

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