Comments on: Can I Be Your Sugar Daddy?

By: clothing racks

clothing racks — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 13:52:44 +0000

You will find obviously quite a lot of details just like that to take into account. That´s a perfect point to bring up. I will offer you the thoughts above as general inspiration but clearly you can find questions like the one you bring up exactly where the most necessary thing will be working in honest very good faith. I don´t know if most useful practices have emerged around things like that, but I am sure that your job is clearly identified as a fair game.

By: Leena Champy

Leena Champy — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 22:59:44 +0000

Arthritis in dogs can be a huge issue that many people never even think of in senior dogs.

By: Laura

Laura — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:30:38 +0000

Thanks, Erik, for a really thoughtful response to the Sugar Daddy blog post. You sound like quite a catch and the kind of man a woman would be lucky to have. Continued success with your romantic adventures!

Laura

By: Erik

Erik — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 07:16:31 +0000

Actually, it has been my experience that more often it is the young women who initiate the relationship. I am a widower, well-educated (PhD Chemistry), of above-average means and (or so the women tell me) not hard to look at. Of course I take their opinion with a grain or two of salt, but then, men are not as obsessed with their appearance as are women. No men’s magazines telling us we’re fat an ugly since we turned 14, I guess.

I have had four women as “sugar babes” or “kept women” in twenty years. I am of the belief that I will meet my very beloved wife again in the afterlife, so I will not marry again since we had children together. I have taken care of my ladies well, the first three and I parted on good terms and the fourth and I are still an item.

All four of the women initiated the pursuit. The first was a former subordinate of mine (I did not date her while we had a supervisor/subordinate relationship, that’s pervy), The next two were women I had met through the college where I sometimes teach. One was a former student, and one was a member of the faculty. My current SB/KW is a 32 year old artist (I am 56) with a penchant for painting nudes and fantasy art. I support her and her art. One of my hobbies is photography and she uses many of the pictures I take of her in and out of costume as models for her paintings.

We treat each other with respect. I see nothing wrong with the situation. She benefits, I benefit and not just sexually. I like to stretch my mind and, being a scientist, art keeps me mentally limber. She is brilliant, very well-read, a great conversationalist and stunningly beautiful. She pursues her art without worries, we travel together three or four times per year, and I mix new pigments for her with varying iridescent properties. And, of course, we have a rich physical relationship. I do not drool, I am not fat (6’2″ 180 pounds), and I am not bald (just going gray at the temples). My only real physical fault is that I snore like a mule when I lay on my back. When we’re together, she punches me in the ribs after she’s had enough, I roll on my side and things are quiet again.

By: Allan Hunter

Allan Hunter — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:23:30 +0000

Great piece, really excellent – and definitely a ghastly situation. So here’s a thought. Years ago I had a colleague in the same league as your prof, and I had to have a serious talk with him as he was propositioning just about every female in the whole company. His reply in defending his actions was stunning. He said that in his experience if he asked fifty women at least one would accept his sleazy offer, and since that was all he wanted he didn’t really care if he outraged the other forty-nine.

I wonder: if each of the offended women had slugged him instead of being nice and leaving early, do you think he’d have carried on behaving that way? Most people, especially men, do what they think they can get away with. Until someone stops them, that is.

By: Christopher

Christopher — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 15:42:26 +0000

Eeeeeek. Sounds pretty skeevy to me, but I know there are people – women and men… that would choose this type of “arrangement” over struggling. There are wealthy women who offer similar situations to hot young studs… (“cougars”?)…

By: Terence

Terence — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 06:57:47 +0000

Student loans and relationships: that’s an entirely real can of worms in today’s world very few people are willing to open. Sure you can date and get to third base / fourth base, whatever those mean (is a lasting relationship possible without a solid “base”?), but whose prepared to shoulder those stultifying obligations in the face of dewy-eyed courtship? Forcing financial paralysis on future generations in the name of education might not only prove foolish, it could also become socially dangerous. For what kind of society can be formed without meaningful social pairbonding?

Nice piece.

By: Karmella

Karmella — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 05:22:06 +0000

Some old dude tried to proposition me at a Greyhound bus station when I was traveling home from college. He wanted to be my “friend” so he could take me shopping and what not. I tried to get him to buy a painting.

When I was in grad school, moonlighting as an artist, I met a fantastic artist whose work I admired. He was 20 years my senior and very inspirational, until his married arse asked me out to dinner.

Sad thing is, this stuff happens a LOT. It’s bad enough that they refuse to acknowledge that their bodies have expiration dates, just like women…on top of that they are still trying to use women as toys. That’s nothing but a d@mn shame.

His proposition was your cue to get him to finance your next big project. If this ever happens again, just batt your eyelashes and say “this project would mean soooo much more to me than hotels and steak dinners.”

Meh, I’m just talkin’. I don’t know if I could bring myself to do even that much.