Comments on: The One You Feel Passionate About, Isn’t the One You Should Marry http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/ A Search for Meaning and Connection - Updated Every Monday Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:44:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Sian http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-549 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:09:30 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-549 I think that passion can be great, its emotionally exciting and without it love can just seem like friendship. But at the same time however during these rollercoaster times we become so idealistic we become very vulnerable and can become deeply hurt very easily. I think it’s important to have a balance; a man that you lust for and cares for you. Without both aspects kept in balance relationships can become ultimately flawed.

]]> By: Vasha http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-355 Tue, 20 Oct 2009 06:14:51 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-355 TD, this is called non-compatible relationship. The things that irritate will get worse.
Sorry

]]> By: TD http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-300 Sat, 19 Sep 2009 00:07:09 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-300 This article caught my attention because I am currently with a “super-nice” guy but feel a bit disinterested. Sex is great, that’s not the problem. I feel like I am physically attracted to him – he’s 6’5″! And, emotionally attracted to him – he says and does things you only hear in the movies. It’s our intellects that are not compatible – he’s a bit of dumb-dumb (poor short-term memory, can’t anticipate shit, always loses stuff). These things along with some physical quirks (nerdy voice, odd facial expressions, always touching his nose) drive me crazy. He has his act together, he puts me first and he’s an overall great guy who I would be stupid to leave. Why am I so indifferent?????

]]> By: val http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-297 Thu, 17 Sep 2009 18:29:40 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-297 A stable relationship doesn’t make for a “lets do it 5x a day” sex drive, but there is something so sexy, alluring, and wonderful about being with someone you genuinely like and care about. And those types of guys are usually up for holding your hand as you walk down the street, instead of only being seen with you in bed.

]]> By: Karmella http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-268 Sun, 30 Aug 2009 02:41:33 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-268 Call me old fashioned, but having a stable functional partnership holds top priority for me…for more reasons beyond basic physical self-satisfaction. I enjoyed this post and agree with the points being made. Definitely food for thought.

]]> By: Terence http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-264 Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:01:00 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-264 And from a purely stylistic side, I just wanted to add that I really enjoyed the “their hearts go gaga and their loins lava hot” line. Top!!

]]> By: Terence http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-263 Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:57:14 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-263 I was wondering what your thoughts are on polyamory. A friend of mine recently turned me on to the concept, and although I have no idea if it’s for me there are some very interesting theoretical foundations there.

I personally find myself much happier being single by dating a large pool of women at the same time. That doesn’t mean I tramp around and sleep with all of them; rather, I try to cultivate a healthy social life based on interactions with many types of people. It’s quite balancing. And living in big city, I get out a lot and see/do things.

In the end, I have ceased being fixated on finding The One (or a One) and am trying to move beyond the tunnel vision of monogamous expectation — all with terrific emotional-spiritual results!

]]> By: jen http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-262 Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:50:39 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-262 yes but sometimes, i used to think that friends with benefits sex was better than no sex. after having been through a rel that deteriorated, and enduring bad treatment-i’m not so sure. its very depressing to be treated badly, however hot the sex. and yes sex, like pizza, can sometimes be bad-especially if you feel used…

]]> By: thelifeandlovesoflucid http://tartandsoul.com/2009/08/23/the-one-you-feel-passionate-about-isnt-the-one-you-should-marry/#comment-261 Sun, 23 Aug 2009 21:18:40 +0000 http://tartandsoul.com/?p=409#comment-261 All very well, but if it`s a choice of celebacy (I am not designed for that, no, no, no) and being allowed to celebrate and enjoy my sexuality, even with a sexy loser, with whom I can and do have intimacy and friendship and a damned hot time, who is as much meeting my needs as I am meeting his, then why not? Life is not all rose coloured spectacles, waiting for Mr Nice, maverick who isn`t committment shy. Sexual liberation was exactly supposed to allow women to choose how and when they use their bodies: Choice, not being dictated to by the notion that an ideal man and a husband is necessarily the answer if ´you are lucky enough to find him`. Surely this negates a woman`s right to choose. I agree that making better choices is crucial though, but advocate that women do what they want, so long as they are not hurting anyone, then why wait endlessly?

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