I have two girlfriends who married for money. The first is ten years in to her marriage…her and her husband have been cheating on each other for years…but neither will break it off… she doesn’t want to lose the “money” and he doesn’t want to have to give her “half of the money”.

The second friend is only a year into the marriage. So far, she’s having fun spending the money…he seems to be having fun watching her spend it. I wonder how long before they both realize the money is the only thing that seems to be keeping them together! Hopefully in this economy he doesn’t lose his shirt!!!

Karmella, I figured you’d have had similar stories. And I love “the personality of a potato,” although I’ve met potatoes with fairly decent personalities.

Thanks for the comments!

I dated a guy, for a few days, who complained and complained about gold diggers and shallow women, but he always accidentally mentioned his six-figure salary and Lamborghini. Growing up, I would see my dad only buy things that were truly interesting or had some deeper value regardless of the price tag. Apparently this concept was foreign to Mr. Sixfigures because when I asked him about his interest in Lamborghinis, he was at a loss for words. It ended before it began after he admitted that he was a manipulative liar, did it professionally for a while, and liked being that way.

I agree with the idea that guys who flash cash, or work solely toward becoming that guy, are basically saying that they have nothing else to offer a woman. You’ll hear them complain that money is all that women want, and that women don’t appreciate personality, character, etc. But to me, that sounds like a lame excuse for a man who has an unattractive character, the personality of a potato, or is an all-around douche.

Peace!….with 2 fingers;)

I haven’t seen the movie, but I read the book. I studiously avoids “chick-lit” (please pardon my use of that term) but a co-worker I talk about books with, and whose judgement I trust, suggested that I read it and loaned me her copy. I found it honest, funny and thought-provoking. And a lot of the criticism of the book strikes me as class prejudice–as if the fact that she’s a “privileged white woman” is in itself enough reason to diss the book. I wonder how certain folks would react if people slammed “Precious” because it was written by “some ghetto chick.”

I’m and African-American man, BTW

“A lovely evolution in their lives…” May we all enjoy such evolution. I’m so excited about your book. Please keep me posted!

I’m not sure I agree with you that all gals from the sex worker industry end up with such silver linnings but I appreciate the element of frustration.

I don’t think marriage and babies is a result of their past, but more a lovely evolution in their lives.

Great blog, happy I found you!

Christine

And I like Raoul’s suggestion that maybe Kim doesn’t want to change though feels pressured.

And my sister from the vaterland is more than respectable. She’s awesome!

Know thyself!